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Matchmaker situation

Ok this crazy situation happened and I want to know what my akhi's and ukhti's will think about it.

I talked to my sheikh about marriage and things and he told me to fast on Mondays and Thursdays. So I went to fast last Thursday, and then I fasted this Monday.

Before, I met this guy a few months ago in the masjid and he took my phone number. I never talked to him again until Monday, after breaking fast, when he randomly called and told me he wanted to talk to me about marriage to his niece.

I know Allah swt helps those who come to Him seeking help, but that was fast.

The guy seems very nice and strong in his deen. He has a family too that he takes care of and that seems very pious in his example. He also has told me that I will only talk to him for awhile and then he will oversee emails between the two of us, as she is overseas. I think he is doing everything according to Shariah.



Here is my issue: I am a revert, and I am of fairly good looks. I am also a terrible judge of character, I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt and fail to see any bad in them. Plus I love talking to people about Islam and I get very close to people very quickly. In addition, I graduate from professional school in about 2 years, inshaAllah. I am so eager to get married that I am fasting two days a week. So of course I couldn't sleep while thinking about how wonderful this may be.

I say these things because I don't want to mess up and get involved in something sticky just because I am being nice and I think the family is nice and I am excited. Nothing will be makroo or haraam about it, but still, I don't know if it is the best situation. I don't want them taking advantage of me when I am vulnerable on issues of marriage.

Will you people help guide me along? I have been reading a book about Islamic Marriages, written by scholars, and I sent him some answers to a questionaire that may give insight to my deen in marriage situations, and inshaAllah we will talk about these before I ever talk to her.


I mean, I just want to know if like I should do this? It seems like Allah swt has arranged this for me, but it was so quick. Is this an Istikhara time? My parents aren't Muslim and they think I should date and live with someone before I get married.... lol

HELP!:embarrass