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Confused??!!!

Asalamu Alaikum

I have recently reverted (feb) and married (march) my long term boyfriend of 5 years, I was guided to Islam over a period of months looking for happiness online, I was NOT thinking about religion.

I found Islam MashAllah, I have the happiness I have craved for years. I LOVE ISLAM.

My MAJOR problem is that my husband does not practice!

He said his shahada days after me and used to pray until we said nikkah, since then they have been adhoc and disgarded. He does not pray 5 times a day. He is now telling me he will practice when he is ready. Hes 'in the closet' and has not told his relatives about being a muslim or being married

I have offered to get him help, to learn more about Islam, to keep good company, for him to learn with me. I am quick learner, I read so much, I think I am learning to save myself from him! Im confused.

I have told him to practice or im off, he says if I am so unhappy and I dont like it I can go, if I cannot wait! I have left my home due to his disregard of his Islamic duties towards Islam and myself. I am staying with family.

I am losing (prehaps lost) my patience with him, I very much dislike the lack of respect for everything except himself in this life, I cannot talk about religion or beliefs, it causes great distress to me with his words and attitude. We are uncomfortable in each others presence. I feel I have tried hard keeping my cool, I feel terrible, I feel like I cannot stand him.

All I am requesting is that he takes his commitment to Islam seriously, takes his life seriously, he says I am going to deep. I am just completely confused about this brother.

I dont want to waste anymore time. Is the an example of when I should repay dowry, resulting in divorce?

I dont want to be harsh on him, he loves me and counts on me, I am feeling terrible to have to leave him, I fear he does not understand, I dont want to hurt him, he acts macho but he is very sensitive. I am a bit worried to cut him off, his family are not around. I care for him very much.

I hope you can give me some advice, I would appreciate your opinions. Im sorry its a bit long, (this is a short version) :exhausted :cry:

Kind Regards

Your Sister in Islam

Jazaak Allahu Khairan.