couple of questions

hi ive put this here as i have a couple of different questions ...sorry if im in the wrong section

My first question is....do I have to choose a Madhab (hope thats the right word) or can I just be muslim fullstop? I still have lots i dont understand and the different schools are really confusing me.

This leads to my second question....my husband (Sunni Shafi) wont touch me after wudu until hes finished salat, sometimes this can be a couple of hours :cry: I dont follow this as I dont consider myself anything other than muslim if you know what i mean? He despairs of me that i will touch him (and i mean general touching of arms, face etc, nothing intimate) then do salat, am i doing something wrong by doing this? :muddlehea