Assalamualaikum,

Recently I have found myself in a frustrating situation with a Muslim roommate and I do not know how to approach her without offending her. When I initially agreed to living with this girl, I knew she was married and her husband would sometimes visit her (he goes to school about 2 hours away). Unfortunately, sometimes turned into frequently. I feel that I might be taking things out of proportion, yet certain times I get so angry that I feel that my frustration is warranted. For example, my housemate would, at times, leave her husband in the house alone. I would come home to make my lunch or dinner to find him sitting in the common room or in her room. Even if I didn't see him I grew increasingly uncomfortable. As well, there are times that he would visit her without notifying me and our third housemate. I have walked out one to many times in my night clothes without realizing that he was in the house (it was extremely embarrassing). Her response to this is always, "My husband wouldn't look, so do not worry". Alhumdulillah, she is probably right about that, yet as a Muslim woman I still cannot feel comfortable. On top of that, I can hear her and her husband enjoying their "freedom" as a married couple. I have never asked her to stop enjoying herself, but have asked that she be more mindful when I am trying to sleep. It has occurred to me at several times that if I wore a hijab like her, she might respect me more (she has hinted at this a few times), yet I find it difficult to put on a hijab just for the sake of a better housing situation. There are, of course, other frustrating things, but I feel these are the most important. I feel that the only way that I could get through to her about my frustration is by relating this situation in terms of Islam. If anyone could kindly give me advice about how I should approach this situation, I would greatly appreciate it. Jazakallah Khair.