Hello everyone,


Ok, this is quite a sensitive issue for me but I need to tell someone about it.

Basically, about a year and a few months ago my mum told me that my dad (they're both married) got married to a woman in another country (Morocco). She told me that he did it without her knowledge, and at the same time that she was unaware that he had married/was seeing another woman, he would take frequent trips to Morocco. (my parents are both muslim).

He said his reason was that he wants to live in Morocco soon, and that he needs someone there to look after him - how he doesn't want my mum to live in morocco with him because the healthcare there isn't the best (she has a few health problems noted below). He told her that he would stay in Morocco for 6 months and see us for the remaining six months.

She's completely torn and still is to this day. I've had several arguments with him about this situation in defense of my mum, but nothing's ever improved. She has Angina & high blood pressure, so the stress from this really exacerbates her condition - and I'm so worried for her :cry:. Besides my brothers, I'm the only person she really speaks to, to let out her frustration.

I can't lie, I've lost a lot of respect for him and his actions. It feels as if he's only thinking of himself and not about the effect that it has on the family. It's really straining my family's relationship with him.

What makes it worse is that the woman in Morocco is much younger than my mum.

I don't know if what he's doing is OK or not - it feels so wrong. It feels like he's had an affair with this other woman.

My mum is such a great person. I really don't think she deserves this. She's done so much for me and my family, it just hurts to see her like this.

If anyone could spare some advice, or tell me about the religious aspects of this, I would greatly appreciate it.


Thank you.