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I would appreciate some advice on an issue I am having.

My fiance has told me about something from her past that, unfortunately, has made me see her in another light. I was unaware of this but now having found out about it has made me look at our relationship differently. It has made me see myself as something I never thought I would be. Not to go into all the details but I broke up her relationship with another because her parents didn't approve of him but they approved of me. Being a muslim she agreed to her parents wishes. I never saw my marriage starting this way.

I really want to get over this but for some reason I just can't let it go. She and I have spoken about it on a number of occasions and each time I think I am through with it only to have the feelings creep back up. I want to stop thinking of this and see our relationship the way I use to. I want to return to that loving feeling we had. But for some reason I can't.

How have other people handle things like this? How do you deal with the past and look beyond it towards the future? I can't seem to do it and I fear that my engagement will end because of this.