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First off thanks for having an anonymous accountas I have a very personal issue that i need to discuss.

Its a very complicated situation that I have to try to summerise as best as I can, so im sorry if its a bit long.

I am the eldest of two brothers and live in the UK with my mum and dad.
To be honest I dont really know where to start but here goes:

My dad has been caught messing about with women in the past( this has gone on for years), when ever he has been confronted by mother he denies it even when theres evidence against him, if anything it makes him better at convering his tracks. we always try to show my father respect but I have always felt very uncorfortable around him and so does my younger brother and sitting in the same room makes us feel unwell. There are people around him that could have stopped him but they have all just stood by, these are all people that have let us down.

He also took my brothers(his son's) name off an acident claim to "give his brother a better chance of claiming" even though it was his fault. There are much worser stories but im trying to keep things short.

In the past he has done many other things against my mother and I have always been helpless to done anything as I tend to keep poor health and so cannot work. I am studying at colledge and will graduate in a few years but in til then I dont know what to do.

We dont really have any family in a position to help us and he has said before to my mother that if she wants to go to then go ( not in a nice way at all)

He has always shown disrespect to my mothers family and swore to them many times. He provides little money for food to my mother to look after us and makes her use the little money she gets from benfits. He also leaves many other jobs that he should really do to my mother I try to help when ever I can but again I do keep poor health.

Today my mum got burn just under her neck from splashes of oil as we are forced to use cheap equiptment and ingredients. She often over stresses about what too feed us and there is always very little in the house.

There is a competition I want to enter to make some money, it involves animation and part of the winning money I think comes from lottery funds which has got me worried.

Is it aloud at all or under my cirumstances. I know in extreme conditions such as life or death you are allowed to drink alcohol etc.. but I dont know if im aloud to enter ?

Is there any other advise you could offer on top of this ?

Please believe me when I say my mother especially is suffereing ( in big way even with her health physical and mentally) she always follows islam to the letter and always asks allah to guide us in our decsions I find it really difficult being so helpless through her pain. All we want is a fresh start with some form of income.

My mum really has tried evreything to help him but his seems unwilling to listen to the truth he does not pray , read quran or anything.

Thank you for your thoughts and comments.